Notes
Psychology, hidden in ordinary life.
Short pieces and observations about the things we do, feel, and repeat — often without noticing why.
New · October 15, 2026
He isn’t trying harder
Lauren’s brother runs four mornings a week and goes to bed at a time that sounds made up. She says he has willpower. Watch him for a week, though, and you’ll barely see him resist anything.
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